Danger! You May Be Making These Three Mistakes When You Write Your Online Dating Profile!
Tuesday, July 6th, 2010You didn’t throw your money away when you signed up for your online dating service, but you probably made some serious errors when you built your profile – serious enough that you’re just getting ignored.
Everybody needs a little help, following are some of the most egregious errors guys usually make and some solid hints on how to fix them:
Mistake #1: Does Your Online Dating Profile Read Like It Was Written by a Caveman for Cavemen?
How does you profile communicate? This is the first step, Bucko. You’ve got to talk in a way a woman appreciates or it’s all downhill from here. Most men are pretty straight forward. They think in terms of facts and truths. “I’m a happy guy.” “I like to have fun.” “I like funny women.”
Statements like those won’t win any awards and they certainly won’t get you any women. The truth is, a woman doesn’t want the 411 on you, she can get that by Googling your name. Women are interested in the man, not what the man owns or where he lives or how tall he his. That’s where a thing called personality comes into play; show it off.
The Fix: Weave stories around the facts of your life that let her see who you are. Give something such as this a whirl: “When I go camping in the desert, I always awaken at midnight to watch the stars. Sometimes, if I’m lucky, I see a meteor or two, and make a wish.” Now, next to that inspired statement, how does, “I think camping is fun.” sound? Yup. Skimpy.
Mistake #2: Don’t Spoil the Profile with a Spoiled Picture.
Look very critically at your portrait before you post it. The picture is supposed to show you at your best. Are you out of focus? Are you doing something you often do? Are you cutesy? Probably none of those, so don’t post it.
Body parts are are really horrible to put in a photo. You might have some great abs or pecs, but that’s not all you’re about. Is it? She’ll get to see those soon enough. Leave something to the imagination.
The Fix: Get some decent pictures of yourself. Your profile photo doesn’t have to be a studio portrait. A nice picture that handsomely shows you at your happy best will suffice. Maybe doing something you’ve written about in your profile.
Mistake #3: Unfortunate Profile Name.
Remember, a name means a lot. What does “Desperate4Luv” or “ShyGuy85” mean? Pathetic, that’s what. And skip the boring, “Jim95” or “Handsome77”.
The Fix: Conjure up something memorable and fascinating, as you are, something like “GuitarsAndGears” if you’re into stock car racing and steel guitars. An overtly sexual user name is, once again, a little pathetic. But a name that could be taken one of two ways might work. “AnimalLover” could work if you are a veterinarian or love animals.
Now that you know of these three mistakes, you should have few problems as you sit down and start building or rebuilding your online dating profile. And you’ll see the results you want.
It’s within the realm of possibilities that your profile could get you a first response before you do anything.
If this information was helpful for you and you’d like to learn even more ways to increase your success with online dating, check out writing an online dating profile and online profile tips
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