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When guys are trying to get better with women, one of the most difficult things is how to approach the girl.  This is a very difficult thing to do.    Before you approach a girl, it’s a good idea to get some confidence built up to overcome the anxiety of approaching a girl.   When meeting girls, you have to know where you are going to meet them and what you’re going to say.

We can look at this a couple of ways.

Approaching girls and mustering the courage for it.

Let’s be honest.    Girls can be intimidating, causing guys to be afraid when it comes to talking with a girl.    Some guys don’t have this problem, making them very lucky.   The biggest hurdle is talking with a girl, and it even holds guys back from getting further with a girl.

Ask yourself, what is holding you back from approaching a girl.    Do you think she will not find you attractive enough?    Do you think you will have nothing to say?    The problem is there, you just have to ask yourself what it is, and improve upon it.

If you start working out and dressing better, then you won’t feel like you attractiveness is holding you back anymore, giving you the confidence you need.    If it’s your conversation that is holding you back, then find a stranger to spark a conversation with.

Where to find the girls and approach them.

Some guys just don’t know where to find the women.    I don’t see how hard it is when talking with women, seeing that 50% of the earth is populated with them.    Everywhere you look, you can find a woman.  Finding them won’t be hard.  They’re literally everywhere!

The location plays a huge role when it comes to approaching girls.    Have something in common with the girl, at a place, and strike a conversation.    The location of where you approach a girl can make a big difference.

Things you share in common with the girl, whether it’s at a local dance class or hobby group, can go a long way.    Questions like, how long have you been coming to this group, will be easier to say. 

Approaching Girls.

You must feel prepared now, right?   There she is, all alone, across the room.    What are you going to do next?

You better have something thought up to say to her.    There has to be a reason for you to approach her.    Look for something that just cries out for you to go over and talk to her.  Does she have on an unusual outfit or is she doing something out of the ordinary?

If you’re still drawing a blank, try thinking a little harder.    If for some reason there is absolutely nothing that stands out about her, memorize some PUA openers and try them out. 

If your confidence level is high and you know exactly what you want to tell the girl, then there is no reason not to approach to girl.  By talking with the girl, sooner or later you will know whether this is someone you want to continue seeing.    Ask her for her phone number, if you think she’s your type.

That’s what you need to do to approach girls.   It isn’t that hard after you get a few approaches under your belt.    Jump on the opportunity.   Get to know someone new.   Take the time to talk, because you never know where it might lead to.  Heck!  This women might just end up being your next girlfriend.

If you’re ready to take the next step and really get good with women, be sure to check out Approach Women and How to Approach Girls Easily.

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Refining and conditioning are the two most important factors in becomming confident and successful with approaching women.

What’s worth knowing for newcommers to seducing women is to realise that there is no such thing as “failure” only “learning”. Sometimes we develop the mentality when learning something new that we aren’t ready to have a go at it ourselves before we become “experts” (An expert is actively doing what he has learnt), or only once we can assume that everything will go right with the first attempt. Limiting beliefs such as this are the cause of procrastination and the wasting away of opportunities. Waiting around for a woman to approach you is completely counter-productive, being proactive about your approaches is how you get better at them. Feel free to read as much material you can, there are plenty of resources to gain knowledge from and plenty of articles on this site with invaluable information on how to seduce and attract women, but reading will not do anything for your real world success unless you implement the things you have learnt. The fastest way to learn how to approach a girl is to get out there and practice it, armed with the knowledge on how to do so.

For those who are getting started, and want to know how to pick up a girl without failure… I have news for you; Two big factors in the stages of knowing how to pick up a girl like a seduction guru are refining and conditioning. It’s only once you have got knocked back that you can  assess what you did wrong, refine your methods then jump back in the game. It’s like Rocky says “It’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up”. something along those lines anyway because let’s be honest… We can only guess what Sly is making out to say most of the time. The difference though between getting knocked down physically and getting knocked back by a chick is that one hurts you physically (does real damage) and the other only hurts the ego (you sissy). Once you become conditioned to the knockbacks you will lose the ego and naturally develop a “Take it or leave it” attitude that will tell women you aren’t desperate, and most likely have an abundance of women in your life and that you are someone who doesn’t put women on a pedestal.

Conditioning combined with refining is what makes the BIG difference. Without refining your methods you will simply make the same mistakes over and over and will become confused, desperate and insecure as to why things arent working out for you. I don’t suggest that you over analyse all your “failed” approaches if the majority are going well for you, you wont be able to pick up 100% of women 100% of the time and that’s ok, because you don’t need to. What you’ll be able to do is put yourself in the correct state to be most likely to attract the majority of women. The way to do this of course is by having relaxed confidence and having a positive energy and an Alpha Male aura about you. Exuding this confidence and aura all begins in the mind and translates through speach and body language - “I think therefore i am”. Think like an Alpha Male and eventually you will become one. So stop the self-doubting, negative talk inside your head and reframe your way of thinking to: “I am a man, (grab your balls if you need to check) I am confident, I am funny, I am attractive” and soon picking up girls will no longer be a daunting task at which you have to nervously coax yourself into, but an enjoyable hobbie with no real reprocussions from failure.

I just want to add here as a last note that self talk should not be an “us vs them” attitude where you feel as if you are going to war whenever you go out there with the intention to meet women. It will come across as false bravado and negative cockyness.

Until next time

Eros

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The truth is, a lot of women are constantly approached by guys, perhaps not guys with any game but that’s besides the point. It’s because we know that there’s competition out there we naturally tend to go for women we think we may atleast stand some chance with. It’s because of this that we decide that we should stay where we are most comfortable and that hot women are “out of our league” or that competition is far too stiff. We fabricate in our minds that these hot women only date the likes of wealthy business men who look like male models and own a yacht and european sports car. I’m going to tell you now that you do not need to be James Bond to get with these stunners, although you could learn a lesson or two from him on the ATTITUDE and Alpha Male traits required to be with them.

The truth of the matter is that the most beautiful women, the 10’s, the ones who you admire from a distance… Women like this are some of the most lonesome. Know why? Because nobody has the testicular fortitude to go and speak to her as if she was harmless (which she is)! Imagine that… There stands a sexy woman who any guy would love to have by his side, and guys actually will avoid talking to her because of an irrational fear of rejection! You’d be more than suprised at the results you would get with hot women if you were to just relax and let your natural charisma flow. It’s unfortunate that the guys who do have the testicular fortitude to talk to these women speak to them as if the slightest word that could be percieved as cocky or offensive is going to wreck their chances. So they speak to them as polite as possible, and compliment them continuously and make it obvious that they are there to serve to them. These horny and hopeful guys bend over backwards to try to “prove themseleves” to women that they are worth their time by divulging every ounce of detail about themselves, which in turn kills intrigue and mystery… which in turn kills off any hope for attraction. This screams at a woman that you are desperate, have no social life and that most of all you are boring.

Knowing how to talk to girls with relaxed confidence and not being afraid to share some humour with her like you would your friends and adopting the traits of an alpha male (by actually BEING an alpha male) you will be able to have these women hooked.

Hot women are secretly yearning for a man, an alpha male to look after them and enjoy their time with. If you know how to pick up a girl, you know how to pick up hot beautiful women - no special treatment necessary.

Until next time

Eros

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To often in conversation with women guys are quick to try and establish a connection related to experience but go about it the wrong way.

The most important step in knowing how to talk to girls is bridging a connection to induce positive emotions. If you attempt to bridge a connection through common interests or similar life experience without evoking these positive emotions you will simply be thought of as someone to talk to within the range of the time the conversation takes to expire.

When learning how to talk to girls, the important things to remember when talking to women beyond fluff talk and try to connect on a more personal level is to allow her to speak about the things she is passionate about and probe deeper into her experiences and interests and try to see things from her perspective rather than be all to eagre to nod and smile looking for an opening to talk about yourself. For instance if she is passionate about travelling find out WHY she is passionate about travelling, why is it important to HER how has she developed from her experience what was she like before these experiences, has it changed her perspective and most importantly how did she FEEL during her experience. Once she is in the groove of talking about something she is passionate about and her emotions are heightened you can then talk about how your experiences relates to her. She will have an invested interest in you as she has already divulged so much of her own personal life to you that she will feel as if she can trust you, and trusting you makes her feel as though the two of you share something and are compatible.

Even when the conversation seems to be shallow fluff talk, there are more often that not pieces of info that are divulged that you can pick up on if you listen intently to what she says instead of brushing these gems of information off and chosing to ignore. For example a girl may say: “I grew up in Vancouver, but moved here to study/work”. Guy who don’t show geniune interest in what she is saying and give generic reponses to her such as “Oh ok” then mentally check that question off in their “Things to ask” list they have stored in their heads, will be unable to make any real or lasting conversation with her. Instead she is likely to remember talking to you as interrogating, tedious and boring. From that little nugget of information she’s given you could find out a lot on a more intimate level such as; How she felt when she first got here, what was life like in Vancouver, do her family still live there? (Could branch off to talk about her loved ones) You could then say how close you are to your family or how goal orientated you are as well - This shows a compatibility in values and also compliments her on a deeper level beyond her looks as you’ve told her you are as goal orientated as she is.

Getting to know someone like this puts you in the position where she is comfortable with you and will feel like “She’s known you for years”. This is one of the best techniques to acquire when you are looking for something more substantial, such as a relationship. Knowing how to approach a girl gets your foot in the door, but stimulating conversation opens up opportunities for escalation.

Untill next time,

Eros

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It is inevitably going to happen to you when you are out partying for women.  Initiating a conversation with a girl is usually a guys goal when out partying. Then, you see the girls you want to approach.  They are in a group and one girl stands out in particular to you. You have gotten the balls to talk to the girls.  Something doesn’t seem right though. All her friends are very receptive but the girl you were focusing on isn’t giving you much action to work with.

Do not lose hope my friend.  It’s not that you aren’t her type.  She has your attention and no longer needs to really work for it so, she can now just sit back relax and let you do all the worrying for gaining her interest. 

She gets the feeling of importance and now the ball is in her court.  She doesn’t want to lose her value her friends see her in so she doesn’t respond as some girl who’s unchlallenging.  She’d rather keep her value with her friends than show her interest in you.  What is the solution to this? Change your approach and use the Deflection Theory. It is important to note that this tip comes from Tiffany Taylor’s Guy Gets Girl ebook.

This is when you take that interest and attention from the girl you are interested in and focus that energy onto one or more of her girlfriends.  This is going to stir up some competition in girls especially in the one you are really interested in.The fact that you aren’t showing her any love now she is going to start to wonder what’s wrong with her.  She is going to try to now get your interest back, which is what you’ll gladly take.  See how the guy gets the girl with this? 

This technique allows you to challenge a girl.  Use this technique from Guy Gets Girl to increase your chances of being successful in the dating scene and to get the girl.

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If you had the ability to separate yourself from yourself and watch you approach a girl what would it look like?  Would we see your best rendition of a deer in headlights or Clark Gable?  Even if you think you are someone who knows how to talk to girls, you may want to keep reading as well, you may discover a thing or two. If your best move is the deer in headlights you will most certainly want to keep reading.  Talking to girls doesn’t have to be difficult and the more you talk to girls the more comfortable you’ll get.  Remember, girls are ordinary people just like your accountant, guy friends, classmates but only prettier.  They need people to converse to them on normal topics as well. You don’t need a very interesting topic to talk about to a girl, just the will power to start a conversation with an attractive girl.  There are some tips to remember however once you get a conversation going such as honestly listening, using your surroundings to talk about interesting enough relevant topics, being natural, and making a great lasting impression leaving more to be desired.

When talking to a girl, remember that a conversation also involves listening.  Make sure you are honestly listening and not just thinking about the next thing to say.Pick up on the subtle hints a woman says and use that to come back with relevant comments.  A girl can tell if you are listening to her or not and it is a big turn off if she gets the vibe that you aren’t truly listening to what she has to say.  Make sure you seem interested in what she has to say and the best way to do that is to give great eye contact and to have a nice relevant comment after she speaks! Being interested allows her to speak more which in turn allows you to speak less.  The less you talk, the more mysterious you are to her  Girls for some reason are interested in men they don’t know much about, guys that have a mysterious appeal to them.  Don’t reveal too much of yourself and be read like an open book.  Of course, that doesn’t mean to not talk at all, but be sure to be a great listener and to let the girl take the conversation where she wants to take it.  

One thing to remember is that you don’t have to have the most interesting topic to talk about in order to approach a girl.  Use the surroundings around you to pick a topic.  If you are at a grocery store it is appropriate to talk about what you are doing at the grocery shop.  Tell her that you were watching the Food Network and you were suddenly inspired to cook and you had to go get your ‘secret ingredient’.  That right there is an interesting enough topic to talk about.  You don’t have to be the most interesting man in the world, just someone who is willingly going to listen to what she has to say and have comments to respond back.  You don’t have to start the conversation with a bang, any relevant topic is going to work well. 

When knowing how to talk to girls, things are just going to come naturally. That is something to remember, especially if you are still nervous about how to talk to girls.  Yes, you can plan what you are going to say and such but don’t plan everything right to the dot.  Make sure the conversation flows in the direction it is flowing and do not try to stay on a plan just because you feel more in control that way.Letting the conversation flow is letting good things to happen. 

Lastly, if the conversation is going well, end it politely.  You want to end things on a great note.  This is going to make her want more as well as keeping you more mysterious.  We mentioned the mysterious point earlier in this article and this last tip is going to seal the deal with that.  Leaving a great conversation with a girl on a high note is the best thing you can do at the end of the conversation.  It lets her know that you have your own life to live and that you have other things going on in your life.  At this point you may want to ask for an phone number so you can maybe continue this interesting conversation later on when you are not so busy with other things.  Of course these are only a few tips you should keep in mind when knowing how to talk to girls, there are much more in depth tips and techniques you can dive into. Nonetheless, with these dating advice tips in mind you are well on your way to learning how to talk to girls successfully.

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Stay out of the friend zone! Here’s how! Physical contact is the key to success in staying out of the F zone. By having some physical contact between the two of you you are establishing a sense of mutual tactility with each other. So how do you project this physical touching and contact technique without looking like a creeper? Here are some things to keep in mind. Use physical contact and touching to help you when you want to know how to approach a girl.

One thing to remember is to not be too aggressive with a woman upon first introducing yourself. You don’t want to scare her away. This is not the correct approach. Being too aggressive is going to end the conversation and your chances right then and there.
Do not be overly aggressive in the beginning because you’ll just put in place an uncomfortable setting for you and the woman you are interested in.

The other extreme is that you are too timid to act and end up not showing any touchy or physical contact. This is not a preferable approach either as it may come off you are simply not interested.  There must be some sort of middle ground, some balance. To find out more on discovering that balance check out Savoy’s Magic Bullets review.

It may sound difficult but it really is not to hit that perfect balance with physical contact and touching. 

When you first introduce yourself, form a bond quickly by kiss on the cheek while introducing yourself.

There is one known area where you can touch her in which you definitely wont be invading her personal space. The outside of a woman’s arm isn’t an area where she’ll take offense if you make contact there and is a great way to get a feel on how she reacts to your touch. Do so however, in a smooth manner. 

The key here is to build a bond with a woman.  This keeps a sexual attracting between you two.

Being stealthy while maintaining a physical connection with a girl is a great way to go about building good rapport. If she doesn’t realize you are trying to touch her you are doing a great job.

Giving a hug when closing out your conversation is a great way to leave a good lasting impression.

It is worth your while to build this bond and rapport with a woman as she’ll want to hang out with you again and not in just a friend way. Learn this technique and in no time you’ll be double your dating.

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