French Kissing Demonstrations, First Kiss How To

The result was something that was so powerful to you that you could hardly explain it. All you knew was that it was something you replayed in your mind again and again and every time it was just as exciting as when you actually gave that girl the physical kiss.

So, as you think about that, you can begin to realize that a kiss can be way more than your lips physically touching some other person’s body. Your kiss can be something that’s so "charged" that when you deliver it to your wife it - when your kiss is just right, it causes her to:

All this can happen when you touch your lips on your wife in a certain way.

Now, plenty of wives complain that their husband’s doesn’t know how to kiss. When asked to describe their husband’s kiss, they say things like:

He’s like kissing a frog.
It’s like my Dad kissing me.
He’s like a puppy dog lapping his tongue all over my face.
There’s nothing in his kisses, they’re lifeless - there’s no feeling to them.
He just "pecks" me and then he’s moving on - it’s so fast there’s no time to enjoy the kiss.

As you keep this objective in mind, remember that it takes time to stimulate this connection with your wife so just drop yourself down into SLOW MOTION!

Second, understand that you must TOUCH your wife with your EYES before you ever touch her with your lips. Your eyes are a tool that you can use to stimulate the intensity of the connection your wife feels with you - and as such, you should ALWAYS use it.

In contrast, a man who drops his gaze, who subverts his eyes, who cannot maintain eye contact communicates that he is weak - maybe even untrustworthy - and definitely not fit to be a mating partner.

So, think of it like this…your eyes are the first thing you use to INITIATE intimacy in your wife’s mind so that she feels the desire to INITIATE intimacy with you physically.

Third, WHILE you are TOUCHING your wife with your EYES, amplify the connection your wife feels with you even further by slightly tensing your hands and fingers so that they will feel firm and strong to the touch and then you TOUCH her GENTLY and LIGHTLY with your FINGERTIPS.

You can put your finger tips on her shoulders - as if you were stabilizing her. You can drape the palm of her hands across your fingertips. You can place your fingertips on the OUTSIDE of her elbows. Or, perhaps best of all, you can cup her face in your fingertips.

Fourth, while TOUCHING your wife with your EYES and FINGERTIPS, now ramp up the connection your wife feels - so that she’s starting to feel sparks - by TOUCHING her with your VOICE.

Say to her, "I’m going to kiss you - just because I WANT to kiss you…there’s just something about you…" Be sure and let your voice trail off on that last part.

Fifth, shift the focus of your eyes to your wife’s lips and begin to move your face SLOWLY towards hers - move just a couple of inches and then STOP - almost as if you were inspecting her lips. Then, relax and soften your own lips and continue moving closer until you’re able to slowly, gently, and lightly nibble your wife’s lower lip. Then pull back a few inches - as if you were doing another inspection - and just for a second or two - and then move back in and nibble her upper lip.

Now, up to this point, if your wife in any way tries to initiate a kiss of her own or tries to get into a more extensive kiss with you, gently but firmly push her face just out of reach of your lips with your hands and tell her, "Uh uh…I didn’t tell you that you could kiss me yet!" and then re-engage in completing the above steps.

Or, if along the way she says something like, "What?" or "What are you doing?" or "What’s going on?" then quietly whisper a "Shhh…" to her and continue moving through the steps.

Once you’ve completed the five steps above, then you’re ready to set off fireworks inside your wife…

Sixth, after having nibbled your wife’s upper lip in step five, pull your face back, look deep into your wife’s eyes and say to her quite directly and emphatically, "You excite me!"

Next, let a sly smile ease onto your face and say to your wife in a slightly teasing way, "Now, YOU kiss ME - and you better make it good - because if you don’t, I’m going to paddle your sexy little butt and make you start over!"

Then, using your fingertips, GENTLY pull her face towards yours so she knows she can now kiss you.

Now, if your wife takes off with an AWESOME kiss, then just let her lead - let her do her thing and follow her lead for a while.

If she gives you a brief kiss and then pulls back, then reach behind her with your hand, give her a light spat on the butt and tell her, "I didn’t say you could quit. Get back up her and kiss me…" and gently pull her towards you (ABSOLUTELY NEVER USE FORCE) to reinitiate her kissing you.

Ok, at this point, I’m going to leave what happens next up to you and your wife. But, don’t be surprised if your wife’s face is slightly flushed with excitement. Don’t be surprised if she’s breathing differently. Don’t be surprised if she drags you off to the bedroom right then and there. And if she does, don’t be surprised if she reaches orgasm incredibly quickly and powerfully. And, don’t be surprised when in the days ahead - maybe even the weeks ahead - she makes comments about and references to you having kissed her…

Some of the most opportune settings:

Right after sharing a good laugh

After something meaningful has been revealed

During a romantic movie or situation

After an argument has come to a conclusion

During a highly emotional or passionate moment you share

After sharing or receiving good news

After an exciting, perhaps even dangerous, experience

During a moment when you feel especially connected to the person

When saying goodbye

Moving closer to you

Touching a part of you that is perhaps not sexual, but intimate

Staring into your eyes

Touching their own lips because they perhaps hoping this will make you notice them

Leans towards you in such a way that it would make them easier to kiss

Few things disrupt a wonderful date more than a terrible kiss and those truly horrible ones are well remembered. Not only does a terrible kiss often indicate that any other physical activity might prove to be less than satisfying it also sends a message out of incompatibility. An awkward moment does not necessarily ruin a kiss and can be circumvented with good humor, but this requires a great deal of sensitivity toward the feelings of the other person, in short, you must pay attention to their physical reactions. It can be difficult to prepare for a kissing disaster as each person is unique, but there are a few styles which are commonly regarded as less than desirable:

Too much tongue: Remember that when the time is right your tongue can be a welcome part of the kiss, but there is no prize for attempting to shove it in the other person’s mouth. Some people seem to get too excited during a kiss and in doing so, get far too aggressive with their tongues. This style is often a turn-off and completely ruins any physical attractions that were taking place. You may have heard this referred to as ‘how does my stomach taste’ or ‘trying to lick my stomach.’ In either case, not a very attractive image for most people.

Smashed: People often press against each other when sharing a very passionate kiss; in some cases a person may even hold the neck or face in their hand(s) during the kiss. During these types of kisses it can be easy to become overwhelmed and to forget that you now have the other person’s head trapped between your face and hand. Pushing too hard with either can turn a kiss from passionate to claustrophobic in seconds and may even get a semi aggressive push back from the other person.

Peck: Often during the first kiss how-to people tend to be a little nervous and this can result in a quick movement that has almost no passion or feeling and only achieves the goals of your lips meeting the other person’s. If you feel that uncomfortable kissing the person it may help to wait until a time when you feel more at ease rather than to make a disaster of your first physical encounter. A quick peck on the lips can indicate that you do not desire the person greatly and may even send the impression that you are not physically attracted to them at all. Make sure that if you are getting a negative reaction from this kind of kiss that you follow it with either another kiss that is a little more tender and romantic or some other form of physical contact to reassure the person you are with.

Can’t Breathe: Always remember how ever well the kissing is going to allow the other person the space to breathe. If you plaster yourself to the other person’s face and do not allow for tiny breaks in the kiss where either of you can draw breath this may result in an uncomfortably loud snort or intake of breath through the nose which can seem comical. Though this may not greatly affect your future relationship as in many cases it will be amusing, it can destroy a passionate mood.